Take a look at those around you, close to you, and ask yourself what can they do for you? What do they want from you? Why are they there? What are you giving them? And most importantly what are they giving you? Be it sex, money, emotional support, or business there is always a reason.
When people interact with others it’s part of human nature for them to assess what those they are meeting with can do for them. Why interact with others that are of no use to you? Be it business, money, social network, or sex there is always a reason why people are interacting with each other.
In general, humans are tribal animals, pack animals, and need other people to survive and function. This can be a strength and also a great weakness. It’s a weakness because most of the people they rely on as pillars of support are themselves weak or faking their support for self-benefit.
From an investigator’s perspective assessing why people are interacting with those they do is essential. This will identify people’s strengths, weaknesses, and maybe if you’re lucky their dirty little secrets. There is always a reason for interaction, maybe not an obvious one but there is always a reason.
By assessing regularly what others can do for you and you for them you can ensure that those in your circle are actually there for positive reasons. You won’t be wasting your time, energy, and money on people who are there only to drain you and can offer nothing in return. What people offer does not have to be purely financial, I interact with quite a few people very regularly just because they amuse me, and this positive outweighs their negatives.
The “What Can You Do For Me” mindset works both ways. If you are looking to interact with others for business, employment, personal or sexual reasons then what can you offer them that is unique? Why should they employ you? Why should they work with you? Why should they fuck you? What can you offer? And being cheap and easy should not be the answer to any of those questions…
I tell people that if they show me a beautiful woman, once past the visual appreciation phase, my first thoughts about her are what problems would she cause me? Would she be worth the problems? Meat is cheap and problems can be very expensive and time-consuming. So, what can she do for me that others can’t with possibly far less inconvenience? As the old saying goes, “All That Glitters Is Not Always Gold”.
I regularly have people approaching me at work whom I don’t know. Most of them are seeking well-paying jobs in the security industry or as tactical instructors with international travel included. So, what can such people actually do for me? Well, absolutely nothing! They are asking me to give them something that either I can do myself or already have others in place that can do the same to a far higher standard than they can provide. Why should I, after almost 35 years of hard work give anything to anyone who cannot offer anything in return?
The “What Can You Do For Me” perspective is simple and clear. Use it and it will prevent you from wasting valuable time, emotions, and money on irrelevant people. It should also, if applied properly stop you from being an inconvenience and drain to others…
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